Very often, many of us in these moments negatively programmed their minds. Any thought of a negative character will seep into our subconscious. And what would stop this program, there is one simple remedy. Each time you notice a negative thought, you should say to himself or aloud two words: "erased, blotted out." And over time, the flow of negative thoughts will diminish. Perhaps at first you'll resort to this exercise very often, but not worry this is normal.
We got rid of the negativity now turn to the positive programming! To begin take a piece of paper and divide it into two parts. On the left side write all the negative from which you want to get rid of (for example: low self-esteem, self-doubt, poor memory, fear, communication, etc.). In the right make a positive program. Rules of drawing up affermatsy: Must be present pronoun I or I It should not be too difficult. Many are very long, complex programs that do not know what but it's hard to read. Must describe the reality of implementation or implemented. Do not be be straightforward. For example: "I have no problem with confidence, in this case you are trying to deceive yourself and your subconscious mind, so it rejects such allegations and may make it worse.
affirmation must bear specifics. Must be free of the comparison. Do not make more than 7 affirmations, preferably 3-4. Try to visualize the process of reciting affirmations. An example of correct use of affirmations: "My self-confidence is growing every day! "" With each passing day, my memory is getting better and better, "" Every day I become more sociable and more confident "in this case there is no direct lies. It is recommended to pronounce Affirmations 2 times a day for 30 times each statement, you can hear, can himself. The same can be recorded on electronic media (players, phones, etc.), and just listen to them daily. How long do this? You do it understand when a program is written in your subconscious and become part of you. And do not forget to praise yourself for any progress. Good luck and success to you!
Mary, October 15th 2012 |
As this author, the Psiconeuroimunologia is the science that studies the interaction between the psychic and neurological system and still its level of influence on the behavior of the immunity of the body and the health in a general way. As diverse research had been perceived that the thoughts and the emotions are really capable to determine the conditions of functioning of the immunity of the body and to make it efficient or fails in its defense work, what consequentemente it can determine a healthful or ill condition. Thus, the psiconeuroimunologia studies the relation between Sistema Nervoso Central (SNC) and the Imunolgico System, as well as the disturbances that if they reflect in one and another one, mentioning itself as a new area of the medicine. This area also explains because emotional situations as the anxiety, the depression, the hatred, the unreliability, the anguish, the fear and all the type of estresse, intervenes directly with the formation of diverse cutaneous riots (EVELINE, 2007). This author still comments that she enters the typical examples of cutaneous riots associates to the psiconeuroimunolgico system are: psorase, vitiligo, the allergies, the acne, the alopecia (calvcie), the tricotilomania (compulsory pulling up of the hair), the rosette and hiperidrose (perspiration excess). The majority of the studies regarding these dermatosis sample that its sprouting or aggravation is strong on thoughts or emotions that produce high levels of estresse in the organism.
Mary, October 1st 2012 |
Love and disadvantages if we see a handsome man, the focus of our attention are usually only of his dignity. Why? So constructed vision. Man sees only what he wants to see, so if the young man cute girl, he wants her, then refuses to see the flaws. And the more the dignity of the girl, the worse the young man in sight deficiencies. The advantages of this is just one part of the personality. Ideal people do not happens. Always, anyone have any weaknesses. They are only in the subjective perception of the man in love.
This is dangerous, anyway, that you will only see the traffic light green light and do not notice the red. Any negative information about his favorite is perceived as a 'zoom' on your light feeling. And only the more convinced you are right. What should I do? Say to yourself, STOP. And look at the situation from the outside. You can not control the events and your feelings until you realize them.
If you want to fall in love with yourself, you should be able to control the situation. If you fall into a stream of feelings and events that they control you, and the result is unpredictable. Being "on ears "immersed in the love experiences, it's hard to think about what to do to fall in love with you. Completely lack of understanding that reciprocity just love little need reciprocal feelings. And as their cause, when man busy with his amorous feelings and you need another – once thought. Sobering is when reciprocity and does not appear from the beloved man. If you are not convinced, visit cerebral palsy spastic quadriplegia. Then it turns out that he has a lot deficiencies. The algorithm is as follows: I love him, but I do not have it, for that I hate him! All the advantages of a loved one over, hello – flaws! And goodbye to love … By Vitaly Pichugin link to this site.
Mary, April 16th 2012 |
'And the same rake welcomed me …' (From a poem by Vishnevsky). Again the same thing! And at the same place! Failure overtakes us exactly where the last time: the second man as the previous one, is an alcoholic, a new work again exploited, friends, as before, call in for three nights, to talk about their misfortunes. Why this always happening to us? Fate? Rock? We are going through and puzzled, but over and over again on the offensive at the same rake. In psychology, there is a concept – the script of life. It is recorded in our subconscious mind in early childhood.
What is the scenario will depend on what surrounds us, the behavior of the adults around us, what we see, hear, feel. The child, like a sponge, absorbs the information he learns at an early age pattern of behavior in society, copying it to model the behavior of those around him. Already by early school age child has created a scenario life. If a family has dominated male-alcoholic, and a girl, growing up, subconsciously looking for a husband, an alcoholic, because in childhood she learned that the head of the family should be like that. If your mom was the kindest, trouble-free woman, friends and acquaintances unceremoniously used her kindness, and then to you, for sure, as bees to honey will want to complain sletatsya many of his waistcoat, ask for advice or ask for help. And you are likely to can not refuse them, despite the fact that you have their concerns through the roof. But there are other version of the script of life.
Mary, April 15th 2012 |
From childhood, most of you, dear women, get from their mothers, grandmothers, fathers and installation, to be real smart. You should eat well and listen to seniors – in early childhood. You should eat well, to clean up after a toy and listen to seniors – to kindergarten age. You should normally eat, clean up their belongings, study well and help a senior – at school age. You should get an education, get a job listen to the elders and help them – in a mature youth. And then, you have a good marriage and lead a decent life married ladies, faithfulness family hearth as a whole and mother to her husband in particular. So, what happens? You are told from childhood irrefutable, immutable dogma, which, on presentation of your relatives, you should follow blindly, without beginning to question under any circumstances. And if suddenly, some sheep, stands out from the flock and fighting off the maternal and paternal hands, she immediately labeled as to which lives an unhappy sheep, fiercely resisting and denying, adnate to the stigma of it.
For instance, if a girl does not find a mate and not will get a wedding ring to thirty-five years, she became the owner, unflattering title of 'old maid'. And any of your even the slightest disruption, would be regarded as sexual dissatisfaction, and with absolutely all, from your relatives and friends, and ending with her friends, colleagues and co-workers. And look at this unfortunate, as will be the 'blue stocking' or even worse, as a frigid bitch-old man-hater. Or vice versa.
Mary, April 7th 2012 |
Springtime is an anxious time for many parents, especially acute problem for those whose child this fall will go to first grade. Educational race in our time begins with the selection of a good and prestigious school, training on training courses, testing, sometimes on duty at the school door on the day of application and, finally, entering the long-awaited first class. And it seems that such actions are justified by their parents, is concern about the future of children, and yet often give rise to a number of psychological issues, whose consequences are sometimes not immediately visible, but no less dangerous. In our difficult situation in terms of social and economic instability of a large number of adults living in constant fear of "not cope with the difficulties": losing their jobs, become poor, sick. Parents have become more insecure, vulnerable and emotionally unstable.
In society is born a new psychological phenomenon: the "fear of failure of children." Adults are afraid that the child is not prepared for school, or not cope well with school requirements in high school, can not withstand competition with other children, be a loser, low value in the eyes of teachers and peers, with no prospects in the future. This parental fear is bad for schoolchildren. Children suffer abuse peers and even teachers, afraid of losing a prestigious school, to spoil a mark in the certificate, to damage relations with teachers. They are silent and suffering, afraid to bring your tired overdriven and the parents' worries.
Mary, March 31st 2012 |
Sometimes the love people decide 'Better me than you', 'I will follow you', is a sense of guilt (actually your fault for the death of her grandmother – not), that is not said, has not approached once again, did not call … If you want to 'let go' grandmother at the sky and live, taking with respect and life and death – go. With a psychologist to do it environmentally friendly. ANSWER: Shenderova Elena MoskvZdravstvuyte psychologist, Kate! Often the loss of a significant person for us is undoubtedly a stressful situation, it experiencing grief and loss, but the psyche of all people react differently to this loss, someone is going through, and crying, can not do anything, but that happens and this does not seem to hard (of course there is loss of consciousness), but in life generally (and No tantrums, and somehow quietly), but still our minds gradually rethinks the situation has occurred in your case, and that's why you can not sleep, that is, Your mind is still working and busy, but here let out and to work independently You can not just your mind and you and cares, not just releasing this information because you can not cope on their own or frighten their reaction and their feelings, yet not all save in myself and just for that and there are psychologists, a person in whom to confide, who will take your feelings and emotions, help them understand and cope with them, simple and easy, even the one who is no longer close, but leaving sense of security and release this man is quite possible that a better place than our life here! Think what would have wished your grandmother being there for you HERE? do not hoard all of himself, the voice, he said, can write her a letter – it is still there and if we remember the man, he is always with us and helps us survive all the hardships and difficulties, feeling the strength and safety! If you decide – you can feel free to contact me, please call – I will glad to help you! For information about psychologists mentioned in this article, you can see on the website. Here, Dr. Kevin Cahill expresses very clear opinions on the subject.
Mary, March 24th 2012 |
Most men believe the amazing depth and strength of woman's beauty makes it mysterious. Almost every woman wants to have in their arsenal of such weapons, but to get it is often hampered complexes … who need to learn how … destroy! So why do people start from complexes? – Complexes with which we often prefer to run away from problems arising from some psychological trauma, which fixed in the human subconscious – says Nazip Khamitov known psychoanalyst, philosopher and writer. – There are five basic psychological complexes that we have with his wife Svetlana Krylova, also a psychoanalyst, called the as follows: complexes Eternal Cinderella, Snow Queen, Marilyn Monroe, Joan of Arc and Athens. Healthy Living can aid you in your search for knowledge. "Eternal Cinderella" … It was a beautiful woman in her late thirties, with the lack of movement and anxiety in his voice. She told me that she had married late, children no.
With her husband lived for six months. He left her. Ina now lives with his mother, as it was before her marriage … During a conversation with the psychologists found that the father also left her mother in about a half a year after the wedding … … Mother with Children instructed her daughter that beauty and happiness can not connect, they say, the beauty attracts misery … And the fear of beauty has become almost an instinct for Ina. So when her life appeared Igor – a strong, decisive, charming, generous with compliments, these fears are a few left the girl, she felt a rush of joy …
Mary, March 22nd 2012 |
When married, you get more of the same parents. Like it or not, but they are there and you there's no getting around it. It was they who gave you her husband is, they taught him everything. Your parents, in turn, raised you and made you hostess. From the earliest days to try to cultivate in myself and my husband in respect to their parents.
About Love is not out of the question, because they know little about the people, but eventually you will become very close. Do you own family, but their parents can not forget. There was a family whose children were common concerns, and now the children their own families. Yes, there steals a midlife crisis. When life are well underway, have grown children and problems that exist in my youth – have been resolved.
Parents bound and united you, but now there is a void! Well, if the parents are warm and trusting relationship and they need each other. And there are families, Ged only semblance of family and children when they leave, the parents would like nothing and no ties. And then anything can happen, but we are not going to bad, we'll create a family, and after the ship on a journey, and your relationship will continue in middle and old age. If you live in the same city with her parents, enough 2-3 times a week to call and ask how things were going, and on Saturday or Sunday to visit. On Saturday, the parents of her husband, on Sunday for his wife's parents.
Mary, March 21st 2012 |
No one knows when this will end. That is true. One may do the calculations and give forecasts, but life always puts everything in its place. In our country, forecasts a thankless job … I honestly do not remember that at least one has come true.
And even if the global crisis, in Russia it is without a doubt, "goes its own way," as always. Choose your case – to listen to suggestions of scientists heads, or just move on. By the way, you know that the astrologers predicted that the crisis will last 60 years? Think about that number … and relax! 60 years is not like three years and not four or even ten. This is a whole life! Do you want to be afraid all your life? Yes, you can not. The human psyche is arranged very wisely. She adapts to everything. Just imagine …
the crisis came to a whole life … And Does this crisis in such a case? Or simply – the new living conditions? What do we do now? As always – to choose from. Some might immediately ordered his memorial service. And someone will wave a hand and will look for ways to resolve crisis … starts in their heads. Read the stories above. I suggest you find the pluses of the global crisis. You think not? That's because you're used to believe the TV. And if you change the angle of view, the crisis can be found in a lot of advantages. Thus, start? Pros crisis.
Mary, March 20th 2012 |