Some people, desperate for their emotional difficulties, ask to me: " when will go to me this? I can really surpass it? what I must hope of a psycotherapy? " They want to know its future beforehand, or to tranquilize themselves, to initiate or to leave a therapy, etc. To them I want to respond here. In order to begin, we must understand that the neurosis is not a disease that can be cured or no, to go or no, to overcome or no. The neurosis is a form to be. Is not more than the set of defenses (" sntomas") by means of that the person protects itself (she flees) of some more or less unconscious emotional pain (lack of affection, wrath, blame, sadness ). For even more analysis, hear from Oxford.
Therefore, the neurosis is not something outer to the person, but the same person. And, consequently, only insofar as it wants or she dares to solve his problematic hidden one, they will be alleviated or even symptoms will disappear their defenses/. One of my favorite examples on the neurosis is " Estrechas" boots;. All we know that to walk with them it protects to us (supposedly) of the pain to walk barefoot, but also – to its time they press to us, produce calluses, pain, blisters to us All class of symptoms. It is the price that we chose to pay by our fear to walk with the naked feet or at least with sandals. While we can support these annoyances, everything goes well. But when no longer we held more – it is to say, when our neurosis is maximum, arises then the question: we took off or we did not take off the boots? The problem is that the boots too much are stuck to our skin, so that any struggle will hurt necessarily to us What to do? We will dare to it? We will be able to make it single, or we will need the aid of which it helps us to throw, or to do it of the possible less painful way? We will prefer, perhaps, to resign to everything and to continue torturing our feet? All the subject of " curacin" of the neurosis it resides, thus, not only in clearing " to us; boots estrechas" of our defenses/symptoms, but in never putting them to us more, that is to say, in learning to walk barefoot by life.